NALA BEAUTÉ

If your goal is to become a refined, classy woman, you must evolve. Yes, there are certain things we as women need to stop doing if we want to drop the hoodrat behavior and be perceived as a classy woman. Hey. I've been guilty of some of these things as I'm sure you have too - this is how I was able to come up with this list.  This list is based off my personal experiences that have made me feel uneasy (during and after the fact) and based on situations that have made me feel second hand embarrassment for other women.   Though I've been practicing most of the things on this list for years, part of this list  is also based off things I've recently learned in regards to being an elegant woman. Nonetheless,  I want to share them all with you.  Therefore, no need to get offended, we're in this journey together. This may come off as harsh; its not for the weak - think of it as an older sister showing you love and guidance.  Perception matters, whether yo...

From handbags at H&M to handbags at Target, back in 2016 I decided to take it to the next level and opt in for designer brand handbags. I went on this crazy shopping frenzy and could not stop buying Kate Spade! I mean why not? Their bags are structured, classic looking, very dainty - they are so me! Until I finally realized that... I went crazy with these impulsive purchases - just like I've gon' crazy with purchases from fast fashion stores.  I have so many KS bags - and when I made an attempt to sell some on Poshmark - no one was interested in them. Not a soul - at least not for the price I was selling them for. Come on, I spent like... $200.00 - $400.00 on these bags. I'm going to have to sell them for $25.00 to make a sale? No way! They're still gorgeous bags, I rather keep them and STILL wear them. Probably display them in my future walk in closet? You know, on some... 'started from the bottom now we're here kind of thing.'  Yes. I am a cornball. Bu...

Part of becoming a divine feminine woman is accepting that you deserve to be loved and accepting that love. For a while, I had a very difficult time with this. Although I was very picky about what men I chose to entertain, I still found myself entertaining men who didn't have my best interest at heart; I'd tell myself 'I just enjoy the challenge.' which is somewhat true.  I'd entertain their nonchalant one word text messages with paragraphs explaining how I felt (pretty embarrassing to admit), settled for forced conversations, forced dates. The bar was so low for what I allowed for the sake of 'the challenge'. I created fantasies in my head that things were more than what they were in hopes that someday it WOULD become more. I found 'good' men annoying & a bore because they reminded me of my father's attempts at being a 'good' father and lets face it...like most of us.. I used to believe that having no chase is no fun.  Men that liked...

H ey, you. I wanted to create a space where I do my best to document this journey I am about to embark on - how dramatic LOL. I have a long way to go from where I want to be; who I want to be. My goal is to document my thoughts, advice, experiences and challenges so that someday, I may look back and see how far I've come along.  I chose to make this public so that I may inspire and encourage those who are also embarking on this feminine journey.  Cheers to becoming a fabulous refined woman - loving, compassionate, elegant and most importantly kind hearted without losing my vibrant self in the process. Sending love to you & love to me.   -A